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Respect Yourself


Respect has been on my mind lately.

Growing up, respect was a big thing around my house. I was brought up to always respect my elders, strangers and peers and I took this very seriously, as all my siblings did.

However lately, the respect I show myself has been an interesting thing to look at. If you know me then you know I’m a bit of a people pleaser. I would easily run myself into the ground if it meant helping someone else. I like to make people happy and helping them to get there brings me great joy.

But what I do for myself, or the way I treat myself or what I expect from myself seems to be a different story. I came to this realization after not being able to sleep the other night. My mind was going a mile a minute with an issue that has come up in my life and I had completely let my thoughts take over. I literally couldn’t sleep, even after realizing that my thought process wasn’t healthy or even accurate for that matter.

The mind, as we know,  has a way of playing tricks on us and in this situation it had done just that. Through my thoughts I had convinced myself that I must be wrong or have done something wrong and that I had to fix this pressing problem. My mind brought me to believe as it had so many times before that I must make sure that others know how much I respect THEM, forgetting that I too must respect myself.

As I laid wide eyed in bed I thought, where is my respect for myself? I had been awake for 2 hours, worrying about doing right by others and I had completely forgot that I was a part of this. My happiest meant something too.

And that’s when it hit me. Respect must be even. I can’t or should I say we can’t keep giving respect if we are also not giving ourselves respect as well. I’m not talking about others giving us respect, we have no control over that, nor should we waste our time trying to demand such things. What I’m talking about is making sure to give ourselves the same respect that we give others. To remember that the way we treat ourselves matters just as much as the way we treat our elders, strangers and peers.

Giving back to you a bit, taking some pressure off of yourself and believing that you are doing your best and deserve to be happy can be that relief you seek. So grab a hold of some respect for yourself and keep it with you. You matter and you are worth it. 🙂



3 Ways to Embrace Change & Love Yourself this New Year

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As we grow older we evolve and change rapidly.

Some changes are welcome with open arms as others are met with kicking and screaming.

But no matter our reaction, the conclusion is always the same, whether we like it or not things will always continue to change.

And it won’t be the change itself that will impact our lives the most, but how we choose to react to it.

If we can learn to embrace the natural occurrences of change as a constant flux and a continuous flow that can rise and fall, then we can let go of the expectations and enjoy the ride while it is happening instead.

Without this acceptance and freedom to feel what is changing around you and within you, there will be a lack of balance and self love.

When you fully love yourself for who you are and for who you are not, then you can gently float through the waves of emotions that come up with calmness and level-headedness rather then with anger and upset-ment.

Here are 3 ways to embrace change and love yourself in the New Year:

Find Your Own Answers. You might be a heavy reader, a podcast junkie or a documentary buff, all of which will provide you with endless knowledge to what you should eat, how you should live, what kind of education you should follow or how you should set yourself up for retirement. But all of these stories are just someone else’s answers. Don’t be afraid to find your own answers, that’s half the adventure.

Know Your Worth. It is sometimes very difficult for us to have a good relationship with our worth. Often, when our worth is challenged whether in the office or at home we tend to either shutoff and retract or become defensive and react. However, we can avoid these two extremes by becoming more aware of ourselves and connecting with what we want, where we are and who we are on a regular basis. Meditation is a great way to tune in with how you feel and as I mentioned above, change is rapid and there for so is our worth within that movement. Try to connect in daily with how you are feeling and where your worth is best used.

Accept You’re Perfect. Perfection is a funny thing. It is quite often a trigger for anxiety, stress and tension but what we often fail to realize is that there is no perfect, no one way of doing things or of being, there is only being you and you are perfect at that.

Perfection’s definition is;

a perfect embodiment or example of something.
When you figure out you, what makes you happy and what makes the people around you happy that is your perfect. Don’t spend your time following someone else’s idea of perfect; use your time doing the thing you can do best, which is being perfectly you.

The happiest of New Years to all of you.



Finding Growth in Change


These last few months have been transitional to say the least.

What once was is now different as it usually is, being that change is a very constant phenomenon.

With change comes questions.

Questions of “What if”, questions of “What now?” and questions of “Why?”.

None of these questions can be answered with any kind of accuracy. The truth is that we can’t change the past, predict the future or ever know why things are happening in the present moment.

Things just are as they are.

The only control we have is how we personally choose to react. We control how much energy we put into things and how much we allow things to affect us.

I believe the most positive way to approach any new situation is to turn change into an opportunity to grow.

Growth is the magic of life.

We have this ability to grow as individuals in ways that are so beautiful and vast that sometimes it scares us into thinking that we can’t grow.

Growth is scary. It takes courage, humbleness and above all the willingness to be vunerable.

I can only hope to grow forever.

To be able catch or reflect what is thrown at me and to try to always find reasoning in hard situations.


How To Be Ok With Criticism


Criticism isn’t an easy thing to take in.

Most people struggle with being able to listen to criticism in a productive and positive nature. Instead they tend to turn criticism into a direct attack on their character or individuality which is not always the case.

Sure, I’ve worked in jobs where criticism probably wasn’t coming from a compassionate place. Sometimes criticism is focused more on feeding someone else’s ego in order to pull someone else down rather then lift them up. Unfortunately this happens more often then not but there are some simple steps that you can follow to turn any criticism into constructive, positive and motivating advice.

  1. Remember criticism is a open-ended suggestion: Within all criticism there is some wiggle room for change. You never have to take criticism for a valid fact if you don’t completely agree with the suggestion. Turn your criticism into something positive for you. Find ways to take the parts that you do agree with and make it into your own. Most of the time criticism comes from a place of motivation to grow, so do your best to keep that in the back of your head while listening and evaluating what your critic is conveying.
  2. Don’t be afraid to ask questions: If you don’t understand or agree with how you are being criticized, speak up. Have a conversation. Nine times out of ten people will respect you more for being honest and open with how you feel. Show respect and try to remember that they probably aren’t there to judge and berate you, they are there to help and support you. Remember that it might be just as hard to deliver your feedback as it is for you to hear it. Keep the compassion mutual.
  3. Embrace Change: Change isn’t always easy, but it is always happening. You are constantly changing just as everyone else is. The good news is that change can be really fun, interesting and motivating when you embrace it. It can open doors, ignite happiness and make you excited for the new things that are happening. Be on the change train, go along for the ride. There will defintiely be bumps along the way but you can handle them if you stay malleable and excited about whats to come.